I was saying in my previous article on the subject of Self Definition, we arrive in this world with an original identity — then we spend the first half of our lives either abandoning it or letting others disabuse us out of it. This is because when growing up, we are surrounded by expectations -which may have little to do with who we really are. These expectations are held by people who are NOT trying to understand our perspectives, but to fit us into theirs!
In families, schools, workplaces, communities, we are trained to gain images of acceptability; this training is carried in social pressures, fears and pursuits. When you are done 'training', your original shape is deformed beyond recognition; we therefore, too often betray our true selves to gain the approval of others. That is not how 'it' works.
.. i will continue this later
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