Making the Big decisions

A lot of young people find it hard to make big decisions regarding their lives and most often leave it for chance to make decisions for them. As such they end up blaming some one or something for the misnomers that follow them. By I try to differ from that. I believe in taking full control of our lives and leaving nothing to chance. This is because circumstances are very unpredictable, and nature does not exactly fix human problems.

An example of such hard decisions that requires taking full control is one regarding marriage. You know, you are in these twenties where society expects you to find some one and perhaps take them home for introduction and so on. A lot of guys fall victims of this 'group think' and make the most pre-mature decisions of their lives.
I have seen at University, a lot of young ladies in my own class start to swell bellies and bearing children in the very second year at university. Its really inconvenient and a sign of bad planning.

Marriage, as I understand it, must be one of the most carefully planned milestones of ones life. Just because you've become of age or you have earned enough money to make a wedding doesn't mean you should. Its more than that. Its carrying out a personality test on yourself to see how well you've managed your own life before you think of managing some one else's. If you have not managed your own life, it follows logically that you'll not manage two lives, let alone three and four. You will only get married as an escape route from your failures and make some one's daughter curse life for ever meeting you. But God forbid that should happen.

Let me let you in on a little secret, about my own idea of a future wife. I used to have a set of variables for a perfect wife when I was small. They were; perfect shape with white snow-white teeth, long fingers and toes, hips (don't lie), deep navel hole and so on. That was me in my teens.

Now its different. She should be studied, and studied broadly especially in the Humanities. If she went to school in the US or UK that's much much better because the schools down here in the pearl don't take humanities that far. You get some one with a myopic outlook on the world and therefore life itself. The thing about a good wife according to me, is to have a liberated view on life, rather than living in the dictates of a single cultural orientation. So I believe any broad study in academic disciplines that digest the world system and the human condition, like literature, history, philosophy, religion, anthropology, world studies, communication and cultural studies, the arts(including music) would make a good mother. That's the kind of woman I'd like to have kids with. This is a wish, just a wish that's not aware of what God has in plan for me.

That's the first thing I would be looking for.